I've recently noticed that the dating rituals of
twenty year olds could not be further in representing chivalry, or any kind
of traditional romance. If you are expecting to be swept off your feet
by a man who wants to take you to dinner, buy you flowers and then politely
walk you home and end the evening with a goodnight kiss, wakeup! You are
dreaming. Although it’s a lovely dream (not my style, but lovely all the same)
it would seem that the dating customs exercised by people in their 20’s are somewhat
less charming and centered around the key concept of remaining “casual”.
What you can expect however, is a string of
flirtatious Facebook interaction, or texts, that lead to an informal group
hangout fuelled by alcohol and music just loud enough that you can’t get stuck
having an actual conversation. This ritual is part of what I have named the inverted
relationship triangle, a framework that flips tradition on its head and means
it is common for romance to eventuate from “hooking up” at a party rather than
the other way around. This fits perfectly into the causal category and means no
one is caught out thinking they’ve entered into some sort of romantic obligation.
Although this might sound cynical, I am not
complaining. As a girl who is
content in her singledom, many of my friends and I are happily engaged in these
pseudo relationships, which keep us on our toes without all the drama. However,
it has recently occurred to me that there is a fine line between what
constitutes casual versus commitment, and it has left me wondering, when and
where do things leave the realm of fun and become serious? As someone who has just booked flights
to Paris – Insert Happy Dance – I don’t plan on finding out what it takes to
turn a fling into something more, so I will have to rely on my wonderful
friends to answer my questions. However my current thoughts are, if your
enjoying your freedom while simultaneously having someone to cuddle once and a
while, embrace it, it’s a pretty good deal.
Xo
P.s. As it’s incredibly windy today, I hope
all you skirt wearers have chosen cute undies.
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